Equal Rights

January 23rd, 2011 No comments

So my fiancée Nikki is in a Philosophy class right now online. The topic of last week’s discussion forum was to “Identify a specific belief you have that you think is worth defending, and explain how you might go about defending it.” Nikki chose equal rights/gay marriage. Below is her initial post and a response from a fellow classmate along with Nikki’s reply back to her classmate. Took out late names for obvious reasons. Thought I’d share this with you all though.
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Nikki XXXXXXXX – 1/20/2011 8:28:09 PM

Their are many things and subjects that can be justified such as beliefs, actions, emotions, claims, laws. These subjects we deal with on a daily basics in our daily lives.

One belief I have is same sex marriage. A lot of people are against it. But I’m for it. I feel everyone should have the same rights regardless of their sexuality. Homosexual couples just want the ability to have their partners share their medical coverage or be beneficiaries on life
insurance policies. It’s never been about changing the definition of marriage. It’s not even about marriage. It’s about being able to share the same rights as a heterosexual couple.

Brenda XXXXXX - 1/23/2011 5:12:50 PM
Hello Nikki,
I read your respond and I can relate to what you are saying about your belief, and I had to respond to you, I have a daughter and her name is Nilkki also, and she thinks she is gay or homosexuals what ever you call it. Nikki I all most lost my mind simply because of my belief, sex, marriages of the same sex is a abomination according to God’s word, Nikki if it was ok in the eye sight of the Lord why do these people have to fight for their rights, and of course it was gay people in the bible, read in Genesis 19:23, and to show you God hate any kind of same sex he burn the city of Sodom and Gomorrah down himself he did not have his angle to do it he did it, and abomination look it up in the dictionary means flit. Do you see same sex of any kind of animals, God’s word to Noah go and get the animals male and female, my belief is God going to save his people that have lost their identity, even my daughter, I can be dead and gone she will get her mind back, and she got to want to do it, that’s why she is lost now, because she do not want to listen and learn or obey. Those people do not have any right, as begin the same sex lovers. We all belong to the Lord Jesus Christ.and what about the children of this world those people again, are telling the children it ok to be homosexuals, I have seen so many young pretty girls at schools and other places as lovers and it just bring tears to my eyes,let these children grow to become what they want to, and children is killing them self because of this homosexuals act.

Nikki XXXXXXXX – 1/23/2011 8:14:53 PM

It doesn’t surprise me that you took this and turned it into a religious argument. That’s the #1 thing opponents to equal rights do right off the bat. The thing is it’s not even about marriage. It’s about being able to let the homosexual community have the same LEGAL rights that heterosexuals have. I’m straight and getting married in May. I have friends in other states that are not able to share their health insurance with their partner just because that person is the same sex. That’s wrong and unfair. Again it has NOTHING to do with marriage. The people in the homosexual community have all along said it’s simply an equal rights issue. Why is it ok to not allow them the same right? Would people argue and picket and fight if we still were treating African Americans like we did before they won their equal rights? They were judged and discriminated against simply based on the color of their skin. These people are being unfairly judged and discriminated against simply because they like the same sex. And just so you know Sodom and Gomorrah was not destroyed purely for homosexuality. There were plenty of other sins going on.

Why should we force our children to be something they don’t want to be. I didn’t CHOOSE to be a straight female. I was born that way. Those that argue that homosexuality is a “choice” have no clue what they are talking about. Did you, Brenda, CHOOSE to be heterosexual? No you just knew you liked men and not women sexually. The same way my friends that are gay didn’t CHOOSE to be homosexual. They just knew, most from a young age, that they were not into girls or boys. My fiance works with a guy who was born a woman. He lives his life as a man, dresses like one, etc. He’s known since he was around 5 that he was not a girl. He hated the girly clothes his mom would buy him, etc. His parents loved him unconditionally and let him live his life the way he knew and felt in his heart that he should, as a man.

These kids killing themselves are not doing it solely based on the fact they were homosexual. Some weren’t gay at all, but of course the media doesn’t sensationalize those stories. They don’t make as much noise in the press as the gay kid that hung himself does. These kids are killing themselves due to bullying. I was bullied as a kid for being overweight. So was my fiance. The problem lies with the parents to be honest. Kids today are so pacified and told that “everyone is a winner” and other nonsense like that. Everyone gets trophies even if they didn’t win. Doing that to our kids just makes them grow up thinking that everyone wins and that sometimes you’re gonna lose and that you need to learn to deal with defeat and losing. These kids don’t know how to deal with the bullying like we got when we were kids. I am stronger today for learning to deal with the teasing, etc. that I got as a kid. It’s made me a better woman today. So if you’re daughter feels she is gay why treat her any differently? She’s your daughter. You should love her unconditionally, regardless of her sexual preference. If, God willing, my fiance and I have kids someday we’ve already talked about how we’re going to handle it if any of them are gay. We are simply going to tell them that we love them no matter what, and let them know the battles they will have to face in their life. But one thing we won’t do is try and force a belief or lifestyle on them that they don’t want. All that will do is make them hate you as a parent more and act out.

Book Review: Getting Enough by Leonard Rosmarin

April 5th, 2010 1 comment

I’ve been meaning to post this for a while now but things came up (loss of employment, city council race, etc.) that have prevented me from posting it. But now is as good a time as ever to post this. Leonard Rosmarin is a frequent visitor to my website. He is also a extremely nice and sweet man who wrote an awesome book called Getting Enough. Below is my review of his book. He sent me two copies. One for me to read and the other to give away.

So if you want to be entered to win just post a comment or follow me on Twitter. I’ll randomly pick someone from either the comments, Twitter, or Facebook. I hope whoever wins the book will enjoy it as much as I did.

And now without further ado here is The Daily Harold review of Getting Enough by Leonard Rosmarin. Enjoy.

Getting Enough – By Leonard Rosmarin

If you like a book filled with drama, scandals, and blackmail, then look no further. This book is filled with it and when I started to read it I couldn’t put it down.

My heart kind of goes out to Sid and Vera. Sid wants the love of his wife and intimacy that they once had. Vera on the other hand is a woman who speaks her mind and is hated by people who can’t handle her big personality. She doesn’t care what people say about her because they don’t affect her. She wants to open up something that’s locked deep inside of her.

In Vera’s eyes Sid is kind of a loser who has fallen off the social ladder. In Sid’s eyes he still loves Vera even though he was messing around on her and she is still a goddess in his eyes. With all of this going on they both figured out things about each other and learn to forgive each other and try and pull it together again.

The rest of the families in this book are just as dramatic like Sid and Vera and as equally dysfunctional and off balance. In the end love and forgiveness prevails.

Valentine’s Day

February 14th, 2010 1 comment

So here it is Valentine’s Day. You always hear people complaining that this is a “Hallmark Holiday” and people having anti-Valentine parties, etc. Why is that? I used to think that way. That was until I finally found someone to make celebrating this day worth it. In the past I was never treated right or loved, etc. I had no reason to look forward to a day celebrating love, something I had no concept of. I think that’s people’s problem. They don’t know what true love is therefore they get all Scrooge like and pissy about this little day called Valentine’s Day.

I mean seriously stop and think about it for a minute. Why would someone who has no idea what true love is want to celebrate or look forward to a day that’s main focus is just that. True love? They wouldn’t. I thank God everyday for giving me the woman that he gave me last year when I was at my lowest. She has finally given me a reason to look forward to and celebrate Valentine’s Day. So to everyone out there let me wish you a Happy Valentine’s Day and even if you’re single give your mom a call and tell her you love her.

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Health Care from My Eyes

February 8th, 2010 1 comment

So I never really gave much thought in the past to people that had no health care. Why? Because I’ve always had it through my employers with every job I’ve had. As you all know I lost my job back in September 2009. Of course that means no more health care. I couldn’t afford the COBRA they offered either. SO I’ve done fine all year last year until this past week. I’ve come down with something that’s pretty vicious. Don’t think it’s like the flu though. Feels like the bronchitis I’ve had in the past many times. Problem is in the past I’ve had health care so I just would go to the doctor’s office, get a prescription, and in a few days be fine. Not the case this time. I’m going on a week now with no change in health. Over the counter stuff isn’t working. Going to have to hit up a free clinic on Thursday (as that’s the only day they’re open). I feel embarrassed to be honest, having to go to a free clinic for health care. Why do you ask? I can’t explain it. I just do. I feel ashamed that I am so poor I can’t afford health care. But at the same time this has made me realize what millions of Americans go through every single day. I still don’t support government controlled health care though. Especially when there are penalties for not having any health care and breaks for illegal aliens, etc. Anyways enough ranting. Time to go dope myself up with more drugs.

Homophobic

January 31st, 2010 2 comments

So I was reading the other day about how the NFL has rejected two ads for the Super Bowl. The first ad was for a gay dating website called ManCrunch.com. The second was for GoDaddy. Now granted GoDaddy has been known to push the envelope with it’s commercials but this one was not that bad. Has the NFL forgotten that it’s 2010? Have they not realized that the homosexuals in this world are not evil disgusting people and that they don’t have to hide anymore? In a statement, the network said, “After reviewing the ad — which is entirely commercial in nature — our Standards and Practices department decided not to accept this particular spot.” They added that it “is not within the Network’s Broadcast Standards for Super Bowl Sunday.” Mind you the NFL has accepted a pro-life organization ad featuring college football star Tim Tebow.

Below are the two commercials that got rejected. Tell me what you think.

The World We Live In

December 15th, 2009 2 comments

earthSo I sit here just pondering random thougths of nothing. Wondering where did I go wrong in life? Who did I piss off to have the year I’ve had? Other than meeting the most amazing woman ever 2009 has been a hellacious year for me. Let’s recap since the year is coming to a close in a few weeks. First off I get divorced back in April (seperation started Jan 1, 2009). Ok fine I’ll deal with it. Best thing that ever happened to me actually though. I find a roommate fairly fast. Cool guy who was down on his luck, hurting for money, etc. Same situation I was in a few years back when I lived in Chicago. I let him live here and he paid me some rent but not that much. I’ve decided to let it slide because of the fact that I was in the same boat not that long ago and someone lent a hand and let me catch a break. This was my chance to return the favor to someone else in need. Still consider him a great friend. He was a godsend really. He helped get me through the roughest times by helping me forget there were rough times to begin with.

I met the most wonderful woman back in March of 2009 (like I said earlier this was the ONLY good thing to happen in 2009). We’d crossed paths unknowingly a year ago and here we are now dating. Who would have known? She’s been my rock throughout everything. I really don’t think I’d still be here (no I don’t mean dead just not living here) if it wasn’t for her. She’s been my strength when I had none. She makes waking up every morning worth it. She’ll be my wife someday.

So we fast forward to September 9, 2009. I lose my job. Worst time for that to happen. Luckily I’ve gotten on unemployment but it’s not making the bills get paid. It’s less than 50% of what I was making before at my job. Mortgage is hard to pay. So far I’ve not gotten foreclosed on….yet. So it’s just been a struggle to get the bills I have paid, etc.

So yeah 2009 has been a hell of  a year. To believe that I’m still here standing is a feat in itself. Again without the support of my AWESOME girlfriend and my great and amazing family I know I wouldn’t be here like I am right now. So anyways there’s a little taste of what I’ve gone through this past year. I hope 2010 turns out better for me.

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Um Hello? Are You Out There Harold?

September 10th, 2009 No comments

Ok so I know I said I’d be back in August and I planned on it. But things changed. First I decided to run for the city council at-large seat where I live. So that’s been occupying most of my time. And most recently (yesterday 9/9/09) I lost my job. So now I am in desperation mode and trying to find work FAST. Worst time to lose a job. So it’s gonna be a little while before I can start posting but I may pop in here and now. Please stay subscribed because I promise I will be back. I’ve got a great book that I got in the mail a few months back from an awesome author and he sent me two copies. One to read and review and one to give away. I’ve got the review written now I just need to get it posted and get a contest going for someone to win the book. Trust me it’s a really good book. Lots of lies, sex, etc. Just up a majority of my reader’s alley. So keep checking back and you may be surprised I may get inspired to write some stuff again real soon. Got some free time on my hand anyways HAHA!

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Taking A Break

July 6th, 2009 No comments

As you can tell I haven’t been posting much since the first part of June. Just had a lot of stuff going on and haven’t had the time to sit and write. I’m going to take a break until August to try and get a few things together for a couple of giveaways sometime in August or early September. I’ll see you all in August.

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Hey Idaho….WTF?

June 10th, 2009 2 comments

lhsOk so I’m pissed. I’m not upset. I’m not mad. I’m PISSED. Why you ask? Well it seems that Idaho is being a bunch of pricks and denying family admission pricing to a lesbian couple at the local STATE OWNED swimming pool called Lava Hot Springs. The couple and their three foster children recently were denied a reduced admission price to the local swimming pool where they live. Apparently this happened because Idaho does not recognize gay marriage and defines a “family” as one male, one female, and children so therefore the state agency that runs the pool must follow Idaho law. The ACLU, who I usually disagree with, says that while Idaho state law defines marriage as one male and one female it does NOT have an overall definition of a family. And last I checked by having foster children they are a foster family that is licensed by the state of Idaho. Does this not define them as a ‘family” by the state of Idaho? I really think Idaho messed up. Read the following from the Lava Hot Springs website:

FAMILY DISCOUNT PASS POLICY
Intent: The family discount is intended to help families afford the day out at a swimming pool or hot pool facility that they may not otherwise be able to afford. It is also intended to increase attendance at the facilities midweek when business is typically slower. Therefore, the discount is available Monday-Thursday except major holidays – New Years Day, Memorial Day, Fourth of July and Labor Day.

Eligibility: In order to be as consistent as possible, families that are eligible for the discount are considered to be parents and children. The children must be dependant children of the parent, or parents, present at the time of entry, and under the age of 18. For the purpose of this discount, parent is defined as the person who has long-term legal responsibility for the dependant children.

Discussion: The children need not be biological offspring of the legally responsible adult(s). Adopted children and foster children are considered part of the family so long as the stipulations listed above are met. Parents are defined as those adults who are either legally obligated to the care of the dependant children or are married to the adult who is the parent of the dependant children. Single parents and their children are eligible for the discount. Adults who are raising their siblings are eligible for the discount.

Um ok so did they not just completely disregard their own policy? These two women completely meet the requirements.

You know I thought Idaho being a somewhat Midwestern state would be more tolerate of this kind of thing, but I was wrong. If this place is going to pull this kind of crap they better start requiring every “normal” family as they wanna call it show their marriage licenses and birth certificates for each kid that is with them or they don’t get a discount.

I leave you with the Merriam-Webster Dictionary definition of marriage (I removed some definitions as they referred to plants and the Mafia):

Main Entry: 1fam·i·ly
Pronunciation: ?fam-l?, ?fa-m?-
Function: noun
Inflected Form(s): plural fam·i·lies
Etymology: Middle English familie, from Latin familia household (including servants as well as kin of the householder), from famulus servant
Date: 15th century
1: a group of individuals living under one roof and usually under one head : household
2 a: a group of persons of common ancestry : clan b: a people or group of peoples regarded as deriving from a common stock : race
3 a: a group of people united by certain convictions or a common affiliation : fellowship b: the staff of a high official (as the President)
5 a: the basic unit in society traditionally consisting of two parents rearing their children ; also : any of various social units differing from but regarded as equivalent to the traditional family b: spouse and children

The full article is over at http://www.ktvb.com/news/localnews/stories/ktvbn-jun0909-same_sex_pool.63f5cee5.html.

Politically Incorrect

June 5th, 2009 8 comments

You know I am so sick of this whole politically correct BS we have nowadays. It’s completely ridiculous and moronic.

This society today makes me sick to my stomach and makes me wonder what went wrong. When did it become wrong to call a midget a midget? Sorry they aren’t height challeneged or vertically challenged. They are a freaking midget. A dwarf. I just have a hard time referring to them as “little people” when discussing them. To me it’s almost more derogatory to call them “little people” than midget. To me little people means they are less of a person than me because they are “little” right?

And now some state (can’t remember which one at the moment) is wanting a statewide ban on spanking. Yep. You heard it right. Ban spanking. I’m sorry but I was spanked as a kid and I’m glad I was. I wasn’t beaten. I was spanked. Paddle, wooden spoon, spatula, flip flop, belt. Whatever was used. I was spanked on my butt. There is a big difference between spanking a child and beating a child. A BIG difference. But today’s society doesn’t seem to see the difference. Spank your kid go to jail. Kid mentions his dad spanked him. BAM! You’re getting investigated for child abuse. It’s sad. Really it is.

Another thing that bothers me is calling blacks African Americans. Why? Do people call me an American American? No. Am I called a English American (since I know I’ve got English ancestors)? No. I’m called white. Same thing with other races. They are Chinese, Japanese, etc. Not Chinese Americans or Japanese Americans. And I’m sorry but it’s Mexicans not Mexican American. If they are illegal then they are DEFINITELY not American nor do they deserve that title. I’ve gotten out of calling Asian people Orientals but I never called them Orientals much to begin with.

I know I’m gonna offend some people out there with this post, but so be it. I know that I am not the only person who thinks this way.